About

 

MISSION STATEMENT:

Our mission is to provide a PRO-CHOICE, judgement-free environment for gay and bi men to meet where each individual can feel comfortable enough to act without fear of rejection or humiliation.  By providing such an environment, we hope to help guys get off of their computers, cell phones and tablets (the normal means of “gay cruising” these days) and bring them together, in person, for some fun.  As a pro-choice party, we encourage our members and guests to communicate openly and honestly with their plaay partners about their needs, thus allowing each individual to make their own decisions regarding what play behaviors are acceptable for themselves, what activities they wish to participate in, and what actions they wish to take to protect themselves from HIV and other STDs.  At CumUnion, all men can fuck equally!

 

CumUnion is an International Sex party open to gay and bi-sexual men. We started as a small sex party after the 2010 Dore Alley Street Fair in San Francisco.  The success of the first party spawned the second,  held two months later following Folsom Street Fair.  Due to the overwhelming popularity of these two events we began to have the party on a regular basis. It wasn’t long before word spread and guys started to request that a CumUnion party be held in their city.  We now host more than 30 monthly parties spanning 30 cities and 3 countries around the world. A local event for a couple hundred men, has turned into an international event for a couple thousand.

What makes CumUnion unique is that we offer a judgement-free environment for men to meet and enjoy themselves. CumUnion prides itself on being a PRO-CHOICE party where individuals can decide for themselves what sexual behaviors and activities are appropriate for them.  Based on that, they can take the necessary measures to protect themselves from HIV and other sexual diseases. Also, our parties always have a great vibe and lots of hot men who are into the same things you are.

  We always look for the most cooperative venue to host a CumUnion party. Our parties are held at bath houses, saunas, sex clubs, gay hotels and resorts, and some private member local spaces.  There will always be some form of a clothes check available for guests and many of our venues also offer refreshments.  If you are interested in hosting a CumUnion party at your venue visit the “Contact” page for how to reach us.

 


 

FAQ

 

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Q: Do you have to be a member of BBRTS or CumHunt to come to the party?

A: No, but we do encourage you to join. You can find other like minded men in your area and members say it’s like meeting with friends if you are on the sites. BBRT is a sponsor and they’ve allowed us to provide information about each party to members there.  BBRT is the only legit listing of CumUnion parties outside of this site. 

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Q: Is there a Clothes check or Lockers available?

A: Yes, all of our venues will have some form of a clothes check or Locker rental available for your clothes and/or bags.

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Q: The party I’m attending is held at a hotel/resort.  Is there a special CumUnion discount hotel rate? Do I have to rent a room to attend?

A: We work with our hotel/resort venues to offer the best possible rates during our events.  It is not required that you rent a room to attend these parties, our hotel/resort venues all offer some sort of Day Pass with which you can attend the party. For rates, reservations and more info on getting a Day Pass, please contact the hotel/resort directly.

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Q: What is your policy on alcohol and drugs?

A: Most of our venues do not allow alcohol, while some of our venues offer fully licensed bars. Drugs are never allowed at any of our parties.  CumUnion members are expected to follow the drug/alcohol policy set forth by the venue. You will not get a refund if you are thrown out of a party for using drugs, being disruptive, or intoxicated.

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Q: Are woman allowed to go?

A: No. Our parties are for men who play with men. We honor our hosts/venues policies for which men are allowed in their venue.

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Q: Are there Lube and Condoms available?

A: Yes, our parties are stocked with lube and condoms.

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Q: Can I bring my phone?

A: Each venue has their own individual policy on cell phones.  We ask that you please check your phone in at clothes check or leave it in your locker. If you need to make a call, take it outside the play area of the venue. Disruptive members may be asked to leave.

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Q: Can I work as a bottom at your parties?

A: Seriously.  No.  Absolutely not. Don’t ask please. That is not a job.

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Q: When are you going to have a party in my city?

A: We are open to having a party in any location where it is legal to have a CumUnion Party.  Contact your local play space and ask them to contact us. Venues are much more likely to host a CumUnion party if their customers ask them to.

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Q: I saw this ad for CumUnion parties on a hook up site other than BBRT or CumUnion in my smaller town and they want money up front, or to join some site to be a on a list.  Is this really you?

A: No. There are people running various conjobs on sites like Adam4Adam, etc. You do NOT have to be on a list to attend a CumUnion Party.  You are not vetted by anyone. You do not have to pay anything to a website to attend.  Venues give memberships on the night of the party only. The only legit party listings are here on this site, and BBRT. These cons often say the party is in a particular room at a motel. Do not attend them.  Do not give them your money. Do not respond to them.  Please contact the site they are advertising on. (Those sites ignore our warnings of these frauds.)

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Q: Are your members “safe” to have sex with?  Is everybody “clean?”

A: As with all play, there are risks involved.  No one can be 100% certain that they don’t have an STD/STI. If you are uncomfortable with taking such a risk, CumUnion may not be for you. All members accept personal responsibility for their own health. They make educated choices based on how much risk they wish to take. The idea that someone is “safe” or “clean” if they don’t have an STD or other disease is actually quite offensive, because it infers that someone who has something is unsafe and dirty.  Anyone can get an STD/STI for a variety of reasons by no fault of their own. We strongly encourage CumUnion Members to have a rigorous testing schedule for a variety of health issues.  For most things every 90 days is recommended.  If you are HIV negative, consider asking your healthcare professional about getting PrEP.  prepfacts.org is a good place to find information on that. You will never be judged at CumUnion.  We are pro-Choice. Use condoms. Don’t. No one will judge you.

 

Q: Do I have to have sex at CumUnion?

A: No.  You do not. Everything you do at CumUnion is by your consent. Play parties have a particular accepted view of consent. That is: You should expect that people may touch you. As most places discourage verbal communication, you can signal to an interested person that you want to play through touch or a nod, or smiling. Or that you are not interested in continuing, with them, by using a variety of signals.  Shaking your head.  Touching their wrists.  Pushing them away. Do not take offense by being declined. After all, you want to be able to do the same. This is a friendly environment.  If someone indicates that they aren’t interested, there will be someone near by who is.  Keep meeting guys.  We suggest a friendly smile when you are turned down, and a yes nod to indicate you understand their wishes.  Who knows, they may just need to go to the bathroom and might approach you later. Regardless.  All sex is consensual. You do not have to play with anyone that you do not want to.  Or you can make yourself open to everyone. If you are new to play parties, watch guys and see how they initiate play. Ask someone to show you the ropes. Cruising is a nearly lost art that can be learned.